Make a commitment to be nicer to yourself.
Author and educator Rachel Simmons is on a mission to teach kids how. In one exercise, she invited an auditorium of high school kids to place their hands on their hearts: “Feel the pressure and warmth of a kind hand.” The simple exercise moved many to tears. “They had never thought to approach their own setbacks with gentleness.” Consider self-empathy a life-long survival skill. The next time you mess up, consider how you would respond to a friend in a similar situation. Without hesitation, extend to yourself the same compassion, non-judgment and care.
Imogen C. Marsh et al., “Self-compassion and Psychological Distress in Adolescents—a Meta-analysis,” Mindfulness 9 (2017): 1011-1027. DOI: 10.1007/s12671-017-0850-7.
Rachel Simmons, “The Promise of Self-Compassion for Stressed-Out Teens,” The New York Times, February 20, 2018.